My mother was very wise.
She gave me some sage advice about love.
Here’s what she told me:
You have to love a person for who they are, not who you think you can make them into.
Having said that she added this analogy.
It’s like getting a dog. You love the dog. It’s sweet and cuddly and kind and gentle. But it’s a dog. You can’t make it into a person. Whatever you try and do it’s still going to be a dog.
BUT, you can train it. Hopefully, over time it will become a dog who doesn’t chew your slippers or mess on the carpet.
But the bottom line is, it’s never going to be anything other than a dog and you simply have to love it for its dogness.
Don’t you just love analogies?