AKA: Newsflash People: EVERYBODY’S Faking It
My mother always amazed me.
A young eighteen year old girl from a small town in upstate
New York moves to the most cosmopolitan city in the world and fits right in!
She was intelligent, pretty, stylish, sophisticated and
smart (which is totally different than being intelligent, by the way.)
Clued in, on the ball, in the know, self assured.
She was always so certain about everything. Never faltered,
never wavered.
I, on the other hand, have moments of grandiose self doubt.
I have many (many) moments of uncertainty.
When I was young it was….was I pretty enough…..thin
enough….smart enough…..was I talented…….did I stand up to my friends
scrutiny……and on and on and on……
As I got older some of the doubts faded away but were
replaced by others.
For instance: a few days after Son1 and I came home from the
hospital Husband found me sobbing uncontrollably on the couch,
wailing “I don’t know HOW to be a Mommy!” (Poor Husband was completely unglued
at the sight of me crying……I almost never cry (at movies yes, but not much in
real life.)
I just KNEW I’d never be as good a mother to my son as my
mother was to me and BigBrother.
I had doubts.
BIG doubts, humongous doubts.
How did she do it? How was she always so sure?
I asked her one day when I was once again riddled with self
doubt.
She said….she faked it!
Seriously? THAT”S your answer?
Yup, she said, you act like you know what you’re doing until
you find that you DO know. And, by the way, newsflash: everyone else is doing
the exact same thing!
So the next time you’re feeling self conscious and doubting
yourself just remember, we’re ALL in the same boat and I’m just as unsure as
you are!
(Even at MY age!)
Thanks Mom! ♥