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Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Marriage; Post Retirement, Take Two

This is the second time Husband has retired.
Economic downturns required him to return to the workplace.
I was sorry that he had to go back to work. (Mostly….)

But I did learn something from the first time, so I think I’m more prepared this time around.
For example: Men think differently than women. They are not good at subtleties. Basically they need to have things told to them in plain English and in no uncertain terms.
So this time around I told Husband anytime you want to jump in and do some household chore I’m all for it. Just don’t tell me how to do what I’m doing BETTER!
So that part is settled.

Now we just have to navigate the “What do you want to do today?” problem.
Sometimes he has plans that don’t necessarily mesh with my plans. And vice versa.
This leads to what I call the ‘Marty’ syndrome. (reference from the movie Marty with Ernest Borgnine…….."What do you want to do today Marty?” “I don’t know what do you want to do?”)

Don’t get me wrong, I like having him around. He’s funny, helpful, and cute. He even engages in conversation. And it’s more than just, “What’s for dinner?”

But sometimes it can get…….weird.


  1. You'll work it out - you see the good side. If you're ever stuck, tell him to start with the ironing or dishwashing.. or any chore you don't like! :)

  2. Yep!...all I can say is "GOOD LUCK" !!!!

  3. Sometimes Himself will cook, but he'll ask me what should he make. My answer? Pretend I'm dead. What are you going to do?

  4. Good one on the housework! As far as what we are going to do for the day, it literally depends on my husband. He thinks he should get to choose absolutely everything. We have a few dicey moments when he finds I just don't want to do the same as he does!

  5. Read this to my husband and first thing he said was for him, plain Dutch will do too.
    For me, the 'what do you want to do' conversation rings a Jungle Book bell, you know, the vultures?


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